I embrace an approach of holism with regard to my coaching.
The word holism comes from the Greek word holos, meaning all, whole, entire, complete, total. The theory of holism is that items in nature—including individuals—can only be understood if they’re viewed as a whole, not as a collection of parts.
Breaking that down to the simplest way I can say that is that my entire approach on coaching boils down to this: you are perfect, whole and complete. Yep. End of story. Nothing’s broken; there’s nothing to fix; there’s no one you need to be that you aren’t already. Everything you need you already have within you. That’s not where we finish; it’s where we start.
I admit; it may take a while to get there; after all, we’re used to thinking that we aren’t tall enough, young enough, good-looking enough, rich enough, skinny enough, something enough. But some day, we think, when we are those things, then we can begin living.
But this ain’t no dress rehearsal. Life is happening right now. This is it.
My work with you starts with you telling the truth about who you really are, continues with you telling the truth about how you got to where you are in life, and ends with you being free, liberated and empowered. Your life will work, you will be at peace, and you will be on track to accomplish the results you set out to accomplish.
The “whole” of you gets addressed in my coaching; I firmly believe that there is no way to separate the “parts” of an individual. Remember holism? I subscribe to the theory that if you transform an individual, you transform the results that the individual produces.
Before you get too worried that this is all going to be a lot of hard work, know that you’re going to laugh and have a blast while you’re in the processes. If you’re not, you’re not engaging in my method the way it’s designed. I take the significance out of the things that seem daunting, overwhelming or taboo; I take the stand that anything and everything can be solved through communication, and that there’s nothing so serious that it can’t be joked about.
Working with me will definitely be fun, but it’s not going to be all laughs; you’re gonna work like a mofo, too, and you can bet that you’re going to come up against all of the stumbling blocks that have taken you out of the game before. The difference is, this time, you’re not going to be alone; you’ll have me in your corner, and together we’ll blast through those barriers as a team.
I will push you; I will champion you, and I won’t buy your BS. I will stand for you when no one else does—not even you, yourself—and I’ll listen to you as the butt-kicking superhero that you are. In my listening you will find yourself; you will blossom, and you will take flight.
In one way you’re not going to recognize yourself, but in another way, you’re going to realize that you’ve actually come home to yourself. You’re actually more yourself than you can ever remember being. One thing is for sure: you’re going to be alive in a way that you haven’t been since you were a kid.
Your relationships will alter, beginning with your relationship to yourself.
I firmly believe that you can’t help but impact a person’s ability to excel in life when you increase that person’s ability to communicate, alter that person’s relationship with themselves, and change the way that person views their circumstances, other people, and the world at large.
If there’s one thing I know for sure it’s that when you are grounded, centered, true to yourself, and taking consistent action from that place, you will soar; you will triumph in your endeavors; you will be blown away by yourself, and you will be moved by the profound privilege that it is to be alive.
There’s a quote written in 1932 by Lawrence Pearsall Jacks, a Unitarian minister, in his book Education through Recreation. Like all great quotes, it’s as relevant today as the day it was written. The quote goes, “A master in the art of living draws no sharp distinction between his work and his play; his labor and his leisure; his mind and his body; his education and his recreation. He hardly knows which is which. He simply pursues his vision of excellence through whatever he is doing, and leaves others to determine whether he is working or playing. To himself, he always appears to be doing both.”
So…now my question becomes: who wants to play?
